Have you ever felt sorry for the failure of past relationship? Research Northwestern University, Chicago, shows, women tend to be busy thinking about the causes of destruction of the relationship was over a broken heart.
In a study conducted through a survey of 370 people aged 19 to 103 years, many women blame themselves for being selfish during an affair.
Research to be published in the journal Psychological & Personality Science shows that, as much as 44 percent of women claimed to have done something wrong that triggered the collapse of the relationship with your ex-spouse. While only 20 percent of men who feel guilty for the failure of relationships.
Jean Hannah Edelstein, relationship psychologist, said that research results indicate that women feel more responsible towards the relationship emotionally. "Women tend to involve feelings to identify the reasons behind the breakdown of a relationship," he said.
Women are more likely to willingly blame themselves for problems that occur. While men tend to use logic in dealing with problems. Only a few men who claimed to regret. In fact, many men who consider it as an attitude of regret is not 'manly'.
"Regret was very bad, but feelings of regret is an emotion that can help. Feel a deep, forget quickly and go forward and you get use to encourage new behaviors that will help," said Chief Researcher, Professor Neal Roese.
Regret tend to focus on the desire to repeat the things that has happened, in order to fix it. Do not let this feeling over the mind. Because, the longer focus on regret, you will lose many good opportunities in life.
The study strengthens the notion that women like to mourn and reflect a failure. This condition is also that often makes her stories difficult to escape from the bondage of the past.
